As our parents get older, most of us begin worrying about their health. While we want them to stay healthy and live independently, there will likely come a time when they will need assistance with daily activities. 

That’s when a retirement community can offer the much-needed relief. They usually assign a caregiver to take care of your parents and even address their mental and spiritual needs. Besides, you won’t have to take days off from your job to help them with their daily living activities. 

However, even when we know moving parents to a retirement community is for their own benefit, we often feel guilty about it. 

If you also feel the same, this article is for you. In this article, we will talk about a few things that will help you cope with the guilt feeling when moving a loved one to a retirement community. 

1. Understand that there’s nothing you can do about their age-related challenges

We all want to be with our parents when they’re getting old. But think of it practically. You probably already have various responsibilities (job, spouse, and maybe kids). At the same time, your parents are getting older. No matter how fit they are, they will likely start experiencing age-related problems (arthritis, back pain, cognitive problems, etc.) over time. 

No matter how hard you try, there will be times when you will be unable to assist them and feel even more guilty about it. 

However, if they are in a good retirement community, they will always be assisted by a caretaker. Plus, they will meet many people their age and might as well bond with them. 

2. Seeking retirement community care can enhance the quality of life of everyone

Moving parents to a retirement community will ensure they get their needs properly managed and addressed. And as mentioned above, your responsibilities will reduce a little, allowing you to spend time with your spouse and kids. 

The best part is that the best retirement communities have experts who can provide medical, emotional, and spiritual support to ensure your parents feel at home and stay happy. The nursing staff even takes care of their health and ensures they’re taking their medications (if any) on time. 

3. Acknowledge that you’re making the best decision for your loved ones

Sometimes an individual’s needs are simply too big to be met by you at your home. For instance, if you are unmarried and live with your parents who occasionally require medical assistance, you will find it difficult to meet their requirements all the time, especially if you have little to no medical experience. 

Retirement communities, on the other hand, retirement communities have nurses and doctors 24/7 to provide necessary medical assistance all the time. This ensures you don’t feel pressured to leave everything aside and take care of your parents while still giving them the best possible care. 

4. Talk it out with a friend

If you have friends who have moved their parents to a retirement community, talk to them about the positive effects of it. They will help you understand how it has benefited their parents. 

When you know that their parents are happier and healthier in a retirement community, it will overpower the guilt and help you understand its importance. Plus, it will help overcome negative emotions. 

5. Think about tomorrow

While your parents might be healthy now, what about tomorrow? Or next year? As we have already discussed, their problems will likely increase as they age. 

Can you give them the necessary help they need? If yes, then you can think of alternate caregiver options. However, if you have a full-time job or are expecting a child soon, things can change quickly. 

A retirement community can take the major responsibility over your shoulders. Since retirement communities are highly flexible, you can always take your parents home during holidays or your special days. 

Choose the Right Retirement Community for Your Parents

The best way to not feel guilty about moving your parents into a retirement community is choosing the right care for them. 

Make sure you can trust the retirement community you’re leaving your parents in. You can do that by visiting the community, talking to people who are living there, and analyzing their activities. 

For instance, Embassy Manor offers professional nursing home and subacute facility in Edison, NJ has highly skilled staff to take care of your loved ones. We also host a wide range of social, religious, and recreational activities to make your parents feel at home.

Our co-workers can provide details on the services we offer, help you to schedule a tour of our retirement community and answer any other questions you might have


Also read: How Is Long Term Care And Living At A Nursing Home?

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Based on 16 reviews.
Susan S
Susan S
June 18, 2021.
Met the pleasant & helpful staff today while being able to have a nice long visit with mom at the enjoyable Meet & Greet Family BBQ now that the pandemic restrictions are finally easing.
Michael Tate
Michael Tate
June 18, 2021.
The people here are very very nice people. It's a very great care of my grandmother and they hosts fun events for the residents and their families. ( P. S. Minal is awsomesauce :D)
Mickey Tatertots
Mickey Tatertots
June 18, 2021.
Anna Morales
Anna Morales
May 21, 2021.
I just wanted to personally thank Dr. & Mrs. Pandya and Mr. Dasondi for creating an unforgettable 100th birthday celebration for Helen Dougert, our beloved matriarch, mother, grandmother and great-grandmother. That special day (May 7) was made complete with the invitation of Edison Mayor Lankey who officially presented "Great-Grandma" with a Proclamation certificate for her centennial birthday. The staff at Embassy Manor went above and beyond with the birthday decor, including balloons, streamers, confetti and even a crown for the birthday girl! Our family was allowed to forget about the ongoing pandemic and return to a sense of normalcy by focusing on the simple things in life...to freely celebrate a milestone with the ones we love the most. We couldn't have asked for a better day for Great-Grandma, who was definitely made to feel special on that momentous day. Please accept our family's most heartfelt gratitude that we are comforted knowing our Great-grandma has another family who loves and cares for her at Embassy Manor.
Robin Jones
Robin Jones
April 29, 2021.
I met nice people here, the recreation staff member Marisa greeted me with a welcome basket and was very friendly. She also went out of her way to get me a candy bar to make me feel welcomed. Also, the housekeeper Jeff made sure my room was clean and also helped me fill out my kitchen menu. I was only here for a couple of days; due to the fact that I wanted to smoke and this is a no smoking facility and the staff tried their hardest to not have me think about smoking and make this experience the best they could.
Doug Cox
Doug Cox
April 20, 2021.
Very fast paced and challenging environment but very rewarding working with the residents
Chhaya Barot
Chhaya Barot
April 12, 2021.
The facility is a great place. The staff is very friendly, always smiling and waiting to assist you.
adele morales
adele morales
April 10, 2021.
My mother is a resident of Embassy Manor. I am extremely pleased with the courtesy, care, and kindness the staff has provided. I want to express our thanks to many of the staff with whom we have had interactions. They have made this entire COVID year a little more tolerable in knowing my mother is comfortable and she is as happy as one can be during this time. I would like to acknowledge these members of the staff, Sharon Brown at the main entrance; Diana and Carol front office; Stefanie, Social Service; Minal and Omar, Recreation; Cleo and Emma , Nursing; Claire, Dietary; Jeannette, Laundry; and Israel, Maintenance. They have always been pleasant, helpful and followed through with my mother’s and my many requests. They have always been gracious and at times went above and beyond what we asked. They have helped with FaceTime, delivering candy and other items, helping with the numerous hearing aide problems and making sure I had contact with my mother during this COVID year. We will be doing outside visits soon again and I anticipate their assistance once again. Once again THANK YOU!
Crystal Leyden
Crystal Leyden
April 7, 2021.
Hello, I am a Kean University student completing my internship at Embassy Manor in the recreation department. The director of the recreation department is Mrs. Minal Patel. Mrs. Patel is understanding with work and personal concerns. She is always willing and prepared to give assistance when assistance is needed in the recreation department and any other department within the facility. She is constantly seeking for opportunities to present the work of the recreation department by taking pictures of all holiday observances and celebrations to post online. The facility consists of a very diverse population of residents who receives recreation services for high and lower level residents to enjoy. Mrs. Patel assists the recreation therapists with displaying the best decorations. Mrs. Minal Patel takes her position as the recreation director very seriously and does her utmost best to fulfill all needs and wants of the residents! Thank you!
Jatan Amin
Jatan Amin
April 7, 2021.
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